"One of the hardest things about this divorce was the fact that my ex-husband never forgave me for leaving, that it didn't matter how many bushels of apologies or explanations I laid at his feet, how much blame I assumed, or how many assets or acts of contrition I was willing to offer him in exchange for departing...I was unredeemable. And this unredeemed dark hole was still inside me. Even in the moments of happiness and excitement (especially in moments of happiness and excitement) I could never forget it for long. I am still hated by him. And that felt like it would never change, never release" (182).
This quote is so emotionally revealing and I love Liz's openess here, and throughout her entire story. She is so free with her feelings and seems to know herself so well; it's truly inspiring. I especially like this passage because I can relate to her feelings, although on a much lesser level. I obviously have no experience with the heartache involved in a divorce, or anything that serious. I do, however, know what it guilt feels like and how it feels to believe someone will never forgive you for something you've done. I am the kind of person who has an annoying need to please people and I tend to be sort of a perfectionist. I hate letting people down, even over the stupidest things. So, even though the guilt Liz Gilbert is feeling over her divorce in no way compares to the guilt I feel when I forget to call a friend back, her experiences still appeal to a universal affliction that we all suffer from: guilt.
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